Welborn is chiefly known as a Catholic writer of books for
young people. Among many other
works, she is author of the “Prove It!” series for teens, and, most recently, Friendship with Jesus, a book about
First Holy Communion. She’s also one
of the first and best in the Catholic “blogosphere.”
A few months after her husband dies suddenly at the age of
50, Welborn decides to take her teenage daughter and two small sons to Sicily and
Spain because…well, she doesn’t really know why. So we find out together as they travel, and the result
is this remarkable book.
Wish You Were Here
is part travelogue, part Catholic exploration on life after death, and all
about the unexpected ways those left behind cope after the death of someone
dear.
If you’ve been through a loss, Wish You Were Here will just make sense. It’s not overwrought or depressing, in fact, it’s funny at
times. It’s just true: You’re fine, and then you’re not. You’re overwhelmed with sadness, and
then you have hope. You cling to
your faith, but you have doubts and questions and what-ifs., It may seem strange that that map
of suffering and grief is overlaid onto a map of Sicily, but it works well
here.
I wrote down so many quotes and paragraphs as I was reading Wish You Were Here that I could fill my
column and blog with them this month, but here are just a few:
*”Maybe here in Sicily, picking my way on worn-down paths
around tumbling ancient walls and broken columns, I will catch a clue as to how
to live with it all. And because
here the veil between past and present seems as thin as the cooling breeze from
the sea, maybe just once in a while, it will whip aside, it will lift, and I’ll
see.”
*“What does it mean if I edge up on joy while doing
something in a place I wouldn’t be if he were still alive?”
*“No matter how they present themselves, no matter how
confident they seem, everyone is walking around with a hole, a resentment, a
question, a nagging sense that something is not right, the suspicion that if
this or that aspect of their life had been different, they would be happier,
they would be at peace, they would be complete. Be kind, someone once said, because
everyone you meet is fighting a great battle.”
It might seem like reading a about someone else’s grief
could be a “downer,” but Wish You Were
Here is not that kind of
book. It will have deep resonance
for anyone undergoing loss, and will be
informative and uplifting for anyone interesting in a Catholic vision of
death from a deeply personal angle.
I have read several of Amy Welborn's books and was a regular reader of her blog when her husband passed away. Her writing at that time was probably my first glimpse into someone's grief as they were living it. I am glad she has come out with this book and will be adding it to my (ever-growing) reading list!
ReplyDeleteThanks so much for the kind review, Nancy. I had hoped it would not come off as a "downer." Glad to see that perhaps it didn't.
ReplyDeleteMarie, if you like Amy's blog, you will love "Wish You Were Here." Amy, the book is not at all a downer; I'm glad I made that clear in my review! I had a sentence in at one point, "At times, it's laugh-out-loud funny," but it sounded really strange and I had to take that out. You can only understand that once you read the book (once you've been there), and I hope many people do.
ReplyDeleteI'm glad to read your review of Amy Welborn's book; I have had it on pre-order and am eager to receive it this month.
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